I recognise that there is exclusion and erasure of non-binary people within some segments of the Trans community. It is quite evident in some places online. There is, however, good news. In my little corner of the world we are incusive of non-binary people. I help facilitate our local Trans support group here in Santa Fe. A little over a year ago I went to my first meeting with some trepidation after encountering many of the issues raised in this post. I was pleasantly surprised to find that I was welcomed with open arms as an agender person. I have found the same reception at our statewide Trans education, support and advocacy organization. Yes you have to speak out and make your concerns known but I have found the real world much more welcoming and inclusive than the online world described in this post. I am certainly doing what I can to be an advocate for genderqueer/non-binary/agender communities. Yes it is important to be knowledgeable about the issues raised in this post but also know many of us are doing what we can to create a non-binary inclusive Trans community
I’ve sat at my computer for days trying to write a blog post about nonbinary erasure within the trans community and the world at large and came up empty. I kept coming up short because WE keep coming up short.
We just don’t exist to most people. Cisgender people say things like:
“why do you have to invent new things all the time? Can’t you just be transgender and be a boy or girl or whatever?”
Transgender people say things like:
“You’re not really trans, because you don’t want to transition.”
These things often hurt worse than anything any cisgender person could say. The people who should be our brothers and sisters under the umbrella of transcending gender instead cast us out into the rain.
For some of our LGBTQIAP+* family, the problem is simply one of language.
You see, being LGBTQIAP+ is inherently political. It’s…
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