One of my dear friends gave me a heads up about this essay. It’s by Tyler Ford* whom you may recognize as Miley Cyrus’s date recently. Tyler is one of their generation’s activists that have kicked off the non-binary gender identity revolution. Since Tyler and I share the same gender identity, (or in our case genderless identity), I owe them alot. Here’s the opening paragraphs of Tyler’s essay appearing in Racked.com:
Wearing a uniform to school has its perks—nobody stands out because everybody looks identical, and the lack of choices makes getting dressed a no-brainer. What do I want to look like? At nine years old, I’m not really sure, but I do know that I will never wear a skirt, skort, or, god forbid, a jumper. How am I supposed to run or sit criss-cross-applesauce or hang out with boys in a skirt? Wear a skirt once and my “boy” street cred will be ruined; they’ll know I’m not really one of them.
So every day is a variation on the same outfit: a navy or white collared shirt, navy or khaki shorts that stop just before my knees, and sneakers, with my incredibly curly hair pulled back into a single braid. On weekends, I wear my cousin’s hand-me-downs: boxy skater shirts and basketball shorts. People call us tomboys and I’m okay with settling for this identity, but only because “boy” takes up half of the word…
*Tyler Ford (@tywrent) is a 24-year-old agender poet. They are a staff writer for Rookie, a contributor for MTV, and their work has recently been published in Poetry Magazine as well as featured in The New York Times.
Note: My Agender style is evolving. Once I get it all sorted out I’ll share it with you.