I Am Her – Shea Diamond 

A fabulous new transgender recording artist has just released her new single. Here’s her introduction to the song:

My name is Shea Diamond, Singer/Songwriter based in NYC by way of Flint, MI. I was born into a gender role that I did not accept & I didn’t feel like myself. Desperate to find the financial means to transition to my true gender, I committed a crime in 1999 & was sentenced to 10 years in a men’s prison. While incarcerated, I found a community that shared my trans experience – it was there where I found my voice. I began writing “I Am Her” as a statement to a world that said I shouldn’t exist. I wrote it as an anthem for all those that felt shunned for simply being who they were. In 2009 I was released from prison. Shortly after my release, I moved to New York City where I found a studio to record “I Am Her” and the means to create a video for my song. 

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My Gender Unicorn 


Gender Identity: Gender Identity: One’s internal sense of being male, female, neither of these, both, or another gender(s). Everyone has a gender identity, including you. For transgender people, their sex assigned at birth and their own internal sense of gender identity are not the same. Female, woman, and girl and male, man, and boy are also NOT necessarily linked to each other but are just six common gender identities.
Gender Expression/Presentation: The physical manifestation of one’s gender identity through clothing, hairstyle, voice, body shape, etc. Most transgender people seek to make their gender expression (how they look) match their gender identity (who they are), rather than their sex assigned at birth.
Sex Assigned at Birth: The assignment and classification of people as male, female, intersex, or another sex based on a combination of anatomy, hormones, chromosomes. It is important we don’t simply use “sex” because of the vagueness of the definition of sex and its place in transphobia. Chromosomes are frequently used to determine sex from prenatal karyotyping (although not as often as genitalia). Chromosomes do not determine genitalia.
Sexually Attracted To: Sexual Orientation. It is important to note that sexual and romantic/emotional attraction can be from a variety of factors including but not limited to gender identity, gender expression/presentation, and sex assigned at birth.
Romantically/Emotionally Attracted To: Romantic/emotional orientation. It is important to note that sexual and romantic/emotional attraction can be from a variety of factors including but not limited to gender identity, gender expression/presentation, and sex assigned at birth.

Example of how to fill out your own Gender Unicorn:

Many people were curious if agender and asexual people were included in this graphic. In short, they are. For example, identifying on the left of the sexuality spectra would indicate no attraction.

Changes from The Genderbread Person
You may recognize this graphic as similar to The Genderbread Person

by itspronouncedmetrosexual. We created a similar graphic with significant changes to more accurately portray the distinction between gender, sex assigned at birth, and sexuality.

The above text and graphic courtesy of Trans Student Educational Resources

Fairy JerBear at Santa Fe LGBTQIA+ Pride, June, 2016

My Gender Unicorn

This is who I am. My gender identity is “agender” technically meaning genderless. I, however, prefer the definition “beyond gender.” My gender expression tends to be more feminine or unisex but includes some masculine items. I was assigned male at birth. I’m physically/sexually attracted to men, specifically androgynous guys. I’m also attracted to trans masculine and many non-binary gender identified individuals. I prefer to use “queer” to label my sexual orientation, although the identity, “polysexual,” also applys. Finally I’m emotionally attracted to gentle, nurturing and loving individuals. These traits are found across genders, hence the selection of multiple genders in this catagory.

Had I been aware of these options in the early seventies, when I was in my mid-teens, my life would have taken a very different course. Thankfully I have now embraced my authentic self. I know it will take some time for many of you to process this information. All I ask from my family and friends is your tolerance, your acceptance and your virtual embrace.

Note: My Gender Unicorn differs from the example in that if a field doesn’t apply to me I left it blank. Thus on gender identity I only indicated that my identity was “other.”

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This Blog Is Five Years Old!

It’s hard to believe this blog is now five. It is a reflection of my interests, passions and identities. These years included my coming out as Trans/Genderqueer/Agender, my coming out for the second time, (my first time coming out was as a gay/queer man}.

As for the blog’s future; I have several posts that I have started but not finished. I hope to post them over the next two months along with anything else that moves me post. 

Thanks so much for being a reader/follower of my blog! Now onward to the future!

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I Remember 29 Years Ago Today – The March on Washinton, Saturday, October 11, 1987

My story, written before I had completely embraced my Trans/Agender Identity…

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This is National Coming Out Day which was initiated on the anniversary of the October 11, 1987 March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Right. I was there at that March 27 years ago and it remains one of the most powerful experiences I ever had.

I am have inserted a post I made a year ago as a part of my 3 part series about my journey from being a closeted Seventh-Day Adventist teen and son of a pastor to being an out and proud Queer Humanist Unitarian Universalist Atheist. I hope this helps someone else struggling today.

JerBear: My Story

I have described my own experience in a former post but I am going to repost it here so it is integrated into this post…

If you Google or Bing the word “Queer” you will soon come across folks that fully embrace the word, those that are timidly…

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Gender Pride Flags

A nice overview of gender flags and descriptions

Harvard College Office of BGLTQ Student life

Hello Harvard (and beyond)!

Here is the promised collection of gender identities and their corresponding flags! There are an infinite amount of genders, and only a few flags on this list. This collection is by no means exhaustive, and again the definitions I’ve posted surely do not fully represent the diversity of individuals who identify with these terms and experiences therein.

Agender: having no gender, being genderless


Bigender: having two simultaneous or fluid genders


Demiboy: being partly a boy and partly another a/gender(s)


Demigirl: being partly a girl and partly another a/gender(s)


Genderfluid: moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity


Genderqueer: having a nonbinary gender identity (sometimes used as an umbrella term)


Intersex: an umbrella term describing people whose sexual anatomy does not neatly fit into binary sex categories of male and female


Intersex (Alternative)


Neutrois: having a neutral or null gender


Non-Binary: identifying as neither a man nor a…

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Power Concedes Nothing Without Demand. Trans Rights Now!

This is today’s Twitter thought for the day from the Santa Fe Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Support Group. This is my favorite quote, which has inspired my activism for nearly thirty years. The quote is in full:

“Let me give you a word of the philosophy of reform. The whole history of the progress of human liberty shows that all concessions yet made to her august claims have been born of earnest struggle. The conflict has been exciting, agitating, all-absorbing, and for the time being, putting all other tumults to silence. It must do this or it does nothing. If there is no struggle there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom and yet deprecate agitation are men who want crops without plowing up the ground; they want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters.”

“This struggle may be a moral one, or it may be a physical one, and it may be both moral and physical, but it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them, and these will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both. The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress. In the light of these ideas, Negroes will be hunted at the North and held and flogged at the South so long as they submit to those devilish outrages and make no resistance, either moral or physical. Men may not get all they pay for in this world, but they must certainly pay for all they get. If we ever get free from the oppressions and wrongs heaped upon us, we must pay for their removal. We must do this by labor, by suffering, by sacrifice, and if needs be, by our lives and the lives of others.”

Rights are never given away by the oppressors, a truth Frederick Douglas learned some hundred and fifty years ago. Over the years his words have echoed in my ears every time I picketed in front of institutions that needed to change. Sometimes it was an ACT-UP “actions,” other time it was Queer Nation or just a group of pissed of LGBTQ people. I have seen how people power can work when you have people working within the system and activists demanding rights on the outside. I’ve seen it result in new legislation, a change in regulations or speeding up approval process for anti-Viral medications or treatments for HIV/AIDS opportunistic infections. Now I advocate applying the same approach for demanding our rights as a trans community. Join me in whatever way is best for you. Together we can change hearts, minds, laws, regulations and other obstacles that prevent us from being fully equal members of society!

Power concedes nothing without demand. It never did and it never will. #FrederickDouglas #StandUpForTransRights #ThoughtForTheDay

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Jacob Tobia Talks About Being Genderqueer and Shuts Down Bulls!*t

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Trans Across America Map Version 1.0

Tans Resources Across The USA…

Trans Across America

Trans Across America is a community-curated project dedicated to helping transgender people find the vital health and wellness resources they need nationwide. Whether you live in a bustling city or a quiet small town, you deserve access to effective health and wellness resources, and Trans Across America wants to help you find them. Use this form to submit to the map and share your knowledge with other trans* young people! Once submitted, our moderator will check the information for accuracy and to make sure it fits the vision of this project and add it to the map shortly. While only a few categories are required, the more information you provide, the faster our moderators can have the entry online.

Thank you for being part of Trans Across America, feel free to email TransAcrossAmericaModerator@Gmail.com with any questions, ideas, or concerns for the map!

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Intersex rights (often violated) are human rights

An important issue! Intersex rights worldwide are explored.


Logo of the Association of Russian-speaking Intersex People Logo of the Association of Russian-speaking Intersex People

The “I” in LGBTI activism is the focus of a new report that spells out what’s at stake in the growing field of intersex advocacy.

The freely downloadable document We Are Real: The Growing Movement Advancing the Human Rights of Intersex People from the Astraea Lesbian Foundation for Justice
seeks to “share and promote relevant knowledge and understanding of intersex issues and activism to people across the world.”

Readers of this blog are aware of a particularly horrifying example of anti-intersex violence that occurred in December 2015 — the fatal mutilation of intersex Kenyan teenager Muhadh Ishmael because he did not conform to their expectations for him.

For many intersex people, human rights violations are much less violent but much more common, as the report’s executive summary notes:

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Opinion: Conservatives Need to Stop Whining About Gender-Neutral Pronouns – Excerpt

I have been seeing a lot of outright hostility from right wing sites about gender neutral pronouns and non-binary gender identities. So this post from a year ago is worth a second look.

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In this post by Camille Beredjick at the Friendly Atheist blog the author takes aim at conservatives who are attacking gender neutral pronouns and their recommend use. I have excerpted about half of Camille’s post. Read the second half by following the link at the bottom of this post.


In the last couple of weeks, officials at the University of Tennessee-Knoxville made two big decisions relating to gender-neutral pronouns. First, theyrecommended the campus community embrace gender-neutral language at their leisure. Second, they retracted that suggestion at the demand of high-profile state conservatives.

Gender-neutral pronouns — like “they,” “ze,” and “hir” — are being used increasingly by transgender people who don’t feel like the categories “men” or “women” suit them.

Michael Brown of Charisma News is terrified of this.

He wrote in a recent piece:

At what point we will realize that the more we deny gender distinctions, the more we…

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For Bullied Fairy Bears Everywhere!

From the Cartoon Network series We Bare Bears comes this dream sequence that’s fabulous, particularly the dance off!

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Gender bear now in BM (Malaysian), Chinese language & English

Another effort to illustrate the complexities of gender sexual orientation, sex and gender expression. Your reactions?


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A Gender Discussion with Jeffrey Marsh

I am a big fan of Jeffrey! It was a joy to read this post and discover Jeffrey’s perspective of gender. It is always wonderful to read the experience of another person, assigned male at birth, who identifies as genderqueer, non-binary and/or agender.

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Welcome to my new, yet to be named series all about gender (any ideas please leave in the comments or tweet me at @hannahbinns!)  This installment is a something I wrote after interviewing Vine star and LGBTQ icon, Jeffrey Marsh.  Jeffrey makes Vines about self-love and acceptance, starting trends such as the #notimetohatemyself movement. 

Jeffrey Marsh website header http://www.jeffreymarsh.com

The reason I wanted to interview Jeffrey in particular is that they have rejected conventional gender labels almost entirely in favour of the term “gender-queer” or “gender-fluid.”  Jeffrey is one of the people who are opening up the discussion and trying to spread the message that you can be whoever you want to be/feel you are.

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We started our conversation by talking about renowned comedian, Eddie Izzard.  Izzard is often asked in interviews about his style choices as he frequently wears…

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You Don’t Need to Be a Boy or a Girl | Alok Vaid-Menon

Alok shines as they talk about the prejudice we face, in being authentic as non-binary femmes, as people who were assigned male at birth.

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Media Misinformation About Trans Youth: The Persistent 80% Desistance Myth

One of the most common arguments by those opposed to medical intervention for Trans kids is this claim that 80% change their minds about transitioning when they get older. In this post that claim is examined by Dr. Winters.

GID Reform Weblog by Kelley Winters

Kelley Winters, Ph.D.
GID Reform Advocates

Jesse Singal, Senior Editor at nymag.com, has enlisted his New York Magazine blog in the promotion of the 80% “desistance” stereotype for gender dysphoric children and youth–the widely publicized presumption that painful distress with birth-assigned sex and gender are just a phase for the great majority of children who suffer it:

While the actual percentages vary from study to study, overall, it appears that about 80 percent of kids with gender dysphoria end up feeling okay, in the long run, with the bodies they were born into.

Singal praised the 80% “desistance” presumption as “solid scientific consensus” and boasted that “every”  study, not some, but “every study that has been conducted on this has found the same thing.” He scorned those who do not accept the 80% presumption (Tannehill 2016, Serano 2016, Olson and Durwood 2016) as “part of problem,” as essentially “ignoring” science…

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Why climate change should matter to LGBTQ+ people

A welcome perspective on why climate change and environmental issues should be important to LGBTQ people.

The Queerness

Stephanie Farnsworth examines how climate change will impact LGBTQ+ people across the world.

In the last week scientists have revealed that we are living in a new epoch for the first time in over eleven thousand years. The Anthropocene epoch is an era where climate is dominated by the influence of humans and much of the impact of our activity is now irreversible. As we develop more intricate predictions of what lies ahead for the world and its environment, there has been little focus on how specific communities and populations will fare. It’s an area that the LGBTQ+ community have been reluctant to even acknowledge but as has been shown, there is so much more to the community than marriage laws. Class oppression, racism, whorephobia are all issues that impact the community significantly but globally climate change will also play its part (and already has begun to).

The simple fact…

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This Week: A Very Transgender Wellness Roundup

A Trans Wellness Roundup…

LGBT HealthLink, The Network for Health Equity

DearTransEach week HuffPost Queer Voices, in a partnership with blogger Scout, LGBT HealthLink and researcher Corey Prachniak, brings you a round up of some of the biggest LGBT wellness stories from the past seven days. For more LGBT Wellness, visit our page dedicated to the topic here.

SaferSexFinally! A Safer Sex Guide Just For Trans Folks

A new guide on safer sex for transgender individuals was published by the HRC Foundation and Whitman-Walker Health, covering everything from dental dams and PrEP to changes that can occur during transition-related care.

Stage Set For Battle Over Transgender Rights

Five states sued the Obama administration for protecting transgender people under the Affordable Care Act’s ban on sex-based discrimination, claiming it violates healthcare providers’ religious freedom to discriminate. The case is now before a Texas judge and could someday reach the Supreme Court.

Major Medical Journal Spotlights Trans Mental Health Head Shot Scout 2014 lo res

The American…

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Androgynous Rock

This is a wonderfully fun post of androgynous rock and pop music videos I posted last year. Enjoy again or for the first time,

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Rock, Pop and Disco Songs Featuring, Male Androgyny, Camp, or Drag

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Tokio Hotel – Noise Live MTV World Stage, Athens, 2009

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Seremedy – No Escape

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David Bowie – Boys Keep Swinging

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Adam Lambert – If I Had You

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Erasure – Take A Chance On Me

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Dead Or Alive – That’s The Way (I Like It)

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Freddie Mercury – The Great Pretender (Extended)

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The Communards – Dancing Queen

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Soft Cell – Tainted Love

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Sylvester – You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)

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QUEEN – I Want To Break Free

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Get It On – T-Rex featuring Elton John

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Elton John – Crocodile Rock (The Muppet Show)

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Cee Lo Green & Gwyneth Paltrow – Forget You (Live @ Grammys 2011)

Songs About Gender Bending Love, (way back when)

Kinks – Lola – Live, 1970

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Lou Reed – Walk On The Wild Side – Rare Video-HD


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Conchita Wurst – From Vienna with Love – Sydney Opera House, Australia

The amazing Conchita Wurst in concert at The Sydney Opera House “From Vienna with Love”

Conchita’s concert in Sydney Opera House “From Vienna with Love” (ORF eins, 10.05.2016) with EN/DE/RU/FR Subtitles | Кончита Вурст, концерт в сиднейской опере, русские субтитры

EN: Conchita’s Wurstgemeinde | DE: Conchita’s Wurstgemeinde | RU: RusUnstoppables | FR: Jocelyne Peltier


DIRECTOR LIVE RECORDING: Randall Churchill, Blink TV


Managing Director: Rory Jeffes

Director of Ochestra Management: Aernout Kerbert

Head of Commercial Programming: Mark SutcliffeHead of Production: Laura Daniel


Kirsten Williams, Emily Long, Nicole Masters, Alexander Norton, Monique Irik, Kirsty Hilton, Emma Jezek, Emma Hayes, Benjamin Li, Tobias Breider, Stuart Johnson, Jeroen Quint, Catherine Hewgill, Leah Lynn, Christopher Pidcock, Richard Lynn, Christina Leonard, Andrew Smith, Euan Harvey, Rachel Silver, Paul Goodchild, Daniel Henderson, Andrew Nissen, Brian Nixon, Jess Ciampa, Genevieve Huppert, Clive Lendich, Alex Henery, Anthony Clarke, Michael Tyack

SPECIAL GUESTS: Trevor Ashley, Guy Sebastian

ORCHESTRA ARRANGEMENTS: Graeme Brown, Lachlan Davidson, Justin Kearin, Anton Koch & Jessica Well
STAGE MANAGERS: Courtney Wilson & Joy Pereira

IDEA AND CONCEPT: Astrid Mulholland-Licht, Austrian National Tourist Office, Sydney


Paul Clarke, Stephanie Werrett, Randall Churchill, Chris Abbott (Blink TV)
Margaret Murphy, Jo Papadopolous and Emma Losco (SBS)

Louise Herron (Sydney Opera House)

Wendy Richards (Working Management)

Titus Day (6 Degrees Group)

Michele Bauer, David Watson (Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras)


EDITOR: Heidi Pfeifer


Set List

Where Do I Begin

Diamonds Are Forever (with Trevor Ashley)

Where Have All The Good Men Gone

Out Of Body Experience


You Are Unstoppable

Climb Ev’ry Mountain (with Guy Sebastian)

That’s What I Am

Rise Like a Phoenix

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BREAKING: Local Resident Comes Out as Non-Binary, World Doesn’t End

This is too fabulous and I just had to share!

Let's Queer Things Up!

Originally published at Wear Your Voice Magazine and republished here with permission.

OAKLAND, CA – Residents are profoundly underwhelmed today after an Oakland resident, Tyler May, announced their non-binary gender identity. What was expected to be the literal end of times, residents say that they were shocked to find that the event has had little to no impact on their daily lives.

“I said over and over again that acknowledging more than two genders would signal the apocalypse,” a local cisgender man explained. “But then nothing happened. Literally. Nothing.”

“I had designed a bomb shelter and stocked it up with canned goods for the next five years,” another resident said. “Come to find out, all Tyler wants is for us to switch pronouns.”

Many locals had believed that by in any way challenging the gender binary, it would spontaneously combust, resulting in widespread fires and a complete breakdown of the social…

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