How Many Genders Are There? Understanding Non-Binary Genders

Worth a second look.

Fairy JerBear's Queer/Trans Musings From The City Different - Santa Fe, NM

This is an excellent overview of gender diversity, gender non-conforming and non-binary gender identities. The presenter, Justin Dennis, does a good job of explaining the topic. Watch this after watching the USA Today introductionto gender diversity.

Here are resources recommend by Justin:, a wiki-type website with brief definitions:

Gender Diversity’s list of terminology:

Gender Spectrum’s great explanation of gender, sex, and various other terms:

Kinsey Confidential’s explanation of gender nonconformity:

A HuffPo article dispelling myths about gender nonconforming children:

An indepth Washington Post article about one agender person and their struggles:

Wikipedia’s take on the idea of the third gender:

Wikipedia’s article on gender variance, with links to other terms available:

When girls starting wearing pink and boys started wearing blue: (Hint: more recent than you think)

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Jon Stewart Returns and Unleashes on a Fox News Commentator and Republicans

Jon appearing on The Late Show With Stephen Cobert to put into words what we were feeling after watching the Republican Convention.

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What Bernie Sanders Gave to America Today

A great perspective on Bernie endorsing Hillary and why we should and then hold her accountable during her presidency.



Today, my hero, Bernie Sanders, endorsed Hillary Clinton, a woman that I truly believe is sociopathic, for the office of the President of the United States and then immediately the sun hid behind a cloud and it began to rain.

I was grateful for the rain.

It’s been pretty humid here for the last several days and I was in need of the empathy.

I fought back tears as I left the gym.

I am not afraid to cry.

I just prefer to do it while I am writing.

I went home and grabbed my laptop.

I knew all this fire stinging my eyes was way too complex to be worked out with a box of tissues or a ton of free weights.

I made a point to stay off social media.

I had no time for haters, turncoats or conspiracy theorists.

I drove to the coffee shop and put in…

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Breaking: Governor of Massachusetts Signs Transgender Bill Into Law

As a former resident of Massachusetts, who has friends who’ve been active in the campaign for full trans protection, I am so thrilled. Thanks Massachusetts for letting compassion and equality win out over hate and prejudice!


MA becomes first and only state this year to pass transgender -inclusive protections, including restrooms and locker rooms 

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BOSTON – Today Governor Charlie Baker, a Republican, signed a transgender public accommodations bill into law making Massachusetts the only state this year to pass a bill updating state law to ensure full protections for transgender people from discrimination in all areas of life, including public restrooms. The legislation passed with an emergency preamble provision that instructs the law to become effective sooner than the usual 90-day period, on October 1, 2016.

“Massachusetts by all counts has bucked a national trend of political attacks against the transgender community and offered a simple but powerful acknowledgement to us today: that we are human beings, worthy of respect and deserving of equal protection under law,” said Kasey Suffredini, chief program officer of Freedom for All Americans and co-chair of Freedom…

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Adam Lambert’s New Video For ‘Welcome To The Show featuring Laleh’ is, “About Facing Who You Are And OWNING It.” 

Here’s how Adam described the intent of the video and his reason for creating it:

“Welcome To The Show is an anthem about facing exactly who you are and OWNING it. Its intended as a mantra to inspire strength and PRIDE. After recording the song a few months ago, I felt very compelled to create a video to further communicate it’s meaning.

I notice such diversity in my audiences when I’m on tour: Young, old, male, female, Trans, Gay, Straight, White, Black, Asian, Hispanic, and every beautiful in-between. The common bond is that they are all HUMAN BEINGS. No matter how we identify, the human heart has a universal set of emotions and needs. Sure it’s idealistic, but couldn’t we be recognizing our similarities, instead of our differences? It all comes down to Identity. We as a society are obsessed with how to classify and define each person. There are new labels invented monthly for how to describe new “types”. In some cases, these labels are needed to empower us and give us clarity, but it seems that at some point, all the categorizing can become quite divisive. I’ve seen so many people trapped by the identity they put so much effort into maintaining, or shunned by choosing not to. I have fallen into that trap myself. True Individuality seems daunting in our age of social media popularity contests. Sometimes it’s terrifying to face your true, whole self, stripped of any pretense. The good, the bad, the cracks, and the scars. I am no stranger to the feeling of not liking myself. Once I get past my own body image issues, I realize that I sometimes also neglect my own spirit. Living in a world filled with so much hatred sometimes makes cultivating self-love a very difficult task. I have always struggled with this as I’m sure many of you have. My path is a kind of paradox in that I get to share my craft with the world, but also be willing to throw myself to the wolves. To dare to be different, but still wanting to be accepted. There is vast beauty to be found in life’s contradictions. This non-binary reality allows us to lead happy, expressive lives, and yet this very freedom comes with great risks. I’m not alone in this limbo. Through my art, I pledge to bring empathy and courage to anyone who has been made to feel unworthy or ashamed while daring to be themselves.

This is the first time I’ve produced my own music video. With the help of my friend and long- time collaborator Lee Cherry, we set out to co-direct something notably honest. I spoke with Laleh (the brilliant songwriter who is featured on the song) and we agreed on the vulnerability we wanted captured on screen. I think the more we as artists share ourselves openly, the more someone out there may feel inspired to do the same. I also felt a strong feeling of empowerment in creating this video independent of the label system. It was time to shoot this one on my own. This video isn’t about selling a song, or product placement, or racking up viral views. This is intended simply as a creative expression. What resulted on set came from a very free and organic headspace that allowed me to connect with the camera as if it were each person who’s supported me over the last 7 years. This video is a thank you to all of you who have lined up to see the Original High World Tour. To everyone who has listened and shared my songs and given me the purpose to keep moving forward. It’s a thank you to all of you who choose to accept and Love who YOU are! We hold each other up! I want you to keep celebrating exactly who you are, even if you don’t fit into the worlds ideas of what they think you should be. Take your flaws in stride, nurture your talents, take pride in your Queerness, and share all the love you have. — Adam Lambert.”

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Can You Name All The Genders? | 1001 THINGS by Curious Jack 

A basic overview of the variety of gender identities. It is not a complete overview but is a good introduction.

There are more genders than male or female! Genderqueer, trans, two spirit…these are just a few of the diverse terms used to express gender identity. How familiar are you with the terminology.

Note: The video uses trans with an asterisk (Trans*) as the umbrella term for a wide variety of gender identities. This is a practice I have ceased to use. I believe that using Trans alone is now widely understood as an umbrella term for the wide diversity of gender identities.

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A response to “Gender is not a spectrum” by Rebecca Reilly-Cooper

Rarely have Iseen such an excellent response to TERF criticism of trans people. Here an agender author picks apart the arguments by Rebecca Reilly-Cooper. The result is a validation of non-binary gender identities and the modern trans movement.


Alright, where to begin…

The title, first of all, is extremely misleading. Although the idea of “gender as a spectrum”is used in the arguing of the point, the conclusion is not that gender is not a spectrum, but that if gender is a spectrum, everyone is non-binary, nobody is cisgender, and that gender is nothing more than the fixed roles placed on people at birth due to their genitals. The title then of gender not being a spectrum is really a Trojan horse to win team TERF a chance to peddle the fundamentals of their worldview in an attempt to get people to back bigoted legislation which restricts the freedoms and opportunities of transgender people.

TERF is a word which stands for “trans-exclusionary radical feminism” as opposed to most other forms of radical feminism which are trans inclusive. In my opinion, trans-exclusionary radical feminism can be compared to any other…

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Lauren Lubin: Breaking Free of the Gender Binary

Male. Female. Neutrios? Hear why Lauren Lubin decided to make a documentary about her transition from female to gender neutral — and how she’s helping others embrace their true genders and identities.

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Gender: A Short Film

A very personal exploration of gender that looks at gender identity, gender roles and gender norms. Created by “A Bow Tie Kind of Guy.”

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A Short Explanation of the Gender Nonbinary

An exploration of nonbinary genders by Lexi Coerr. The video creatively mixes computer generated voices and human voices in the beginning of the video. The video then explores various peoples reactions to nonbinary genders as well as questions from cis friends of Lexi.

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President Obam Designates Stonewall a National LGBTQ Monument

This White House produced video, introducing the new National Monument, highlights the importance of The Stonewall Inn and why The events in June of 1968 matter.

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Julia Scotti: A 63-Year-Old, Transgender, Stand-Up Comedian, Gets Crowd Going With Edgy Comedy – America’s Got Talent 2016

Tuesday night, on America’s Got Talent, Julia Scotti, brought down the house with her hilarious, edgy routine that was sassy, self depricating and irreverent. It was during a follow up question by Howie Mandel that she revealed she was transgender. That revelation seemed to cement her bond with the audience, showing that sometimes laying it all on the line can win over a crowd. Julia’s new career is off to a promising start and has a bright future as an LGBTQIA entertainer. I wish her all the best!

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#ProudToBe: Coming Together to Celebrate Identity

An inspirational, deeply personal, celebration of #LGBTQIAPride 

Celebrating the inspiring voices who are #ProudToBe


MUSIC: “Nothing Without Love” by Nate Ruess
From commemorating Pride parades to opening up about transitions and explaining the ABCs of LGBT (…), YouTube is a place where anyone can belong no matter who they are or who they love. That is why today we want to help people honor and celebrate who they’re #ProudToBe.

Now, more than ever, it’s important that we help accept, love, and celebrate one another. In the wake of the tragic events in Orlando, we stand together in support of the LGBTQ community. We stand together with everyone who has the courage to own and share their identity. We stand together to show the power of solidarity, the power of love, the power of pride. To those beautiful and brave voices who continue to make YouTube the vibrant, diverse and empathetic community it is, we are #ProudToBe with you.

JOIN IN: Who are you #ProudToBe? 

Upload a video or share a post with #ProudToBe in the title so others can find it.


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Golden – A short film by Kai Stänicke

A beautiful short film uses being golden as a metaphor for growing up different, of growing up gay. This film is directed and presented by Kai Stänicke.

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#QueerSelfLove – Fairy JerBear

There is a campaign on Twitter using the hashtag Queer Self Love. Here’s a brief excerpt from Bustle about the campaign:

“Queer Self Love” Twitter Hashtag Shows Positive Representations Of The LGBTQ Community & Reminds Us To Love Ourselves | Bustle


In the wake of the horrific attack at Pulse nightclub in Orlando on Sunday morning, the LGBTQ community — and world at large — has been mourning. For many in the LGBTQ community, mourning has meant coming together to share our grief, support, and love for one another — and the “Queer Self Love” Twitter hashtag is one heart-warming and emotional example of how the LGBTQ community is coming together to build one another up and show ourselves love and celebration. Created by writer, performer, and video maker Dylan Marron on June 14, the hashtag Queer Self Love has gained major traction on Twitter since its launch — and with good reason.

Continue reading about this inspiring and empowering campaign here:

I decided to offer my simple message of #QueerSelfLove:


It reads:

Agender JerBear NM @JerBearSantaFe

I’m a Queer, Agender Fairy Bear from Santa Fe, New Mexico & I’m proud 2 B my authentic self at last. #QueerSelfLove

If you’re on Twitter and you feel like sharing a quick message about yourself along with a photo, I urge you to tweet your own message of #QueerSelfLove.  Go to Twitter and enter #QueerSelfLove in to the search field. You will be overwhelmed by the response. You are not alone and there are many, many LGBTQIA+ people out there who are part of YOUR community.

If you feel like sharing your tweet in a post I urge you to do it. If your not on Twitter just post a message and a photo here. Let’s get this trending and empowering OUR community in the process!


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Grave Timing A Petition for LGBT Equality

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Originally posted on O-blog-dee-o-blog-da:
Sign the Petition: It’s time for full equality for LGBT Americans! For many years, while the focus of our community has been on marriage equality, many of us have been calling for FULL equality legislation for…

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A Gay Dad’s Open Letter to Donald Trump: Stop Dancing on the Graves of our Slain LGBTQ Brethren

Another parent responds to the tragedy in Orlando. In this post it is Mr. Trump’s deeply insensitive comments that caught the attention of a gay dad.

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I woke Sunday morning to my phone chirping that a new text message had arrived. It was from my radio show co-host, Steph Taylor inviting me to a vigil to be held in our local town… a vigil for Orlando.

I did not know anything had happened in Orlando, but as with all other mass shootings, I usually got the first news from such a text as Steph’s.

A popular LGBTQ club called the Pulse had been invaded by an assault rifle wielding gunman and over fifty LGBTQ people were dead, and an equal amount severely wounded.

For whatever reason, my first exposure to commentary by those seeking to lead our nation was that of Donald Trump. He was opportunistic in his commentary. The first tweets I saw were: “Appreciate the congrats for being right on radical Islamic terrorism.”

“Reporting that Orlando killer shouted “Allah hu Akbar!” as he slaughtered…

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He Just Needs To Find His People, Then He’ll Be Safe

A very personal and very powerful post from the keyboard of a mother.

Raising My Rainbow

FullSizeRender(14)Growing up, I instinctively knew that I had to worry about my brother’s safety because he was slightly effeminate when young, people assumed he was gay as a teen, then he came out shortly after high school. All of those things made him a target for bullying, harassment, victimization and violence.

I saw him find his people and it eased my worry. The first time he took me to a gay club, I remember thinking, “He’s found his people. He’s safe here.”

The first time I visited his new place in West Hollywood, I remember thinking, “He’s found his people. He’s safe here.”

My youngest son started showing signs of gender nonconformity at age three, started describing himself as gender nonconforming at five, self identified as a member of the LGBTQ community at eight.

Little did I know that the worry I’ve always had for my LGBTQ brother’s safety had…

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Time Wimey – Gendery Bendery

Doctor Who has generated many memorable quotes but perhaps the most memorable is the 10th Doctor’s description of time from the episode Blink. The episode deals with an encounter with a scary being called the Weeping Angeles. These beings appear to be solid stone when stared at but the minute you stop looking at them they can move and attack you. In the episode the Doctor has recorded one side of an interactive conversation on video tape in the padt. A young woman who has encountered the Weeping Angels discovers that she is the other side of the conversation. The women is confused about how the Doctor in another time can be holding the conversation with her. That is when he offers the famous description of time. Here’s a clip of that quote:

The quote has spawned a creative explosion as you’ll discover if you Google an image search of “timey wimey.” In addition it has also inspired a song and video, by the group H2 Awesome, that is a tribute to the 10th doctor and his companion Rose. Here’s the description of the song and video:

In celebration of the new Doctor AND the 50th Anniversary of Doctor Who, we recorded a song about one of our favorite Doctor / Companion combos!

The 10th Doctor and Rose Tyler prove that Love and Time Travel might be the same thing. After all, “People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but *actually* from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint – it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly… timey wimey… stuff.”

Eventually a poster was created using the quote like the following:


Original by Emo DJ Smith – recolor and up-resolution by Fairy JerBear

Those of us who have a non-binary gender identity often find that, describing gender to people with a binary concept of gender, is as difficult as describing time, as a time traveler, to those with a linear concept of time. That has inspired an artist named Tharock to create a gender version of the famous quote which is illustrated here:


Original low resolution image found on Pinterest. Designer: Tharook — White lettering of this graphic over various colored T-shirts available here. — Graphic color design and Resolution Upconvert by Fairy JerBear

So now you have a good opening to describe gender to those stuck with a binary concept of gender. Those people will likely be nerds who call themselves Whovians but that’s okay because they appreciate mind expanding concepts and do we have doozy!

Before leaving here is a link to a wonderful post using this quote as catalyst for sharing their gender journey. Here’s Ania’s story:

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Again? Again! – Full Frontal With Samantha Bee

Samantha Bee sums up the tragedy in Orlando. The best response to this horror I’ve seen. Republican politicians, with a few exceptions, are paralyzed by their own illogical worship at the altar of the NRA and their own homophobia and transphobia.

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